The name less

Go in any Indian House and try to call a wife by her name and you will know why I am forced to write this. First it is very difficult to identify a married woman by her name. Rather they are identified by their relation ship with her husband, son, father in law etc. Second thing , calling a woman by her name is always to be offensive. Result is obvious. It results in namelessness of a woman , post marriage.

The traditional role of women in Indian society has been that of caregivers and homemakers. This has been ingrained in the social fabric for centuries, and it is only recently that we have seen some changes in this mindset. Women were expected to marry and bear children, take care of their husbands and in-laws, and manage the household. This traditional role was reinforced by society and passed down from one generation to another.

India is a nation that prides itself on its diverse cultural heritage. It is a land of great civilizations and religions, with each one leaving its mark on Indian society. Despite this proud legacy, mental health-related issues are on the rise in India, especially among women. One of the major reasons for this trend is the loss of identity among Indian women.

However, the world has changed dramatically over the past few decades. The rapid pace of urbanization and globalization has brought about new opportunities and challenges for women. There is more emphasis now on education, careers, and independence. However, this shift has not been easy, and women have struggled to balance their traditional roles with their new aspirations.

One of the major consequences of this shift has been the loss of identity among Indian women. They feel torn between their traditional roles and their new ambitions. They find themselves caught in a dilemma, unable to reconcile their past and present selves. This lack of clarity about their identity can lead to anxiety, depression, and other mental health-related issues.

In addition, there are other factors that contribute to the loss of identity among Indian women. One of these is the pressure to conform to societal norms and expectations. Indian society places a great emphasis on conformity and tradition, and women are expected to adhere to these norms. This can be especially challenging for those who want to break free from the traditional roles assigned to them.

Another factor that contributes to the loss of identity is the lack of support for women who want to pursue their ambitions. Many women face opposition from their families when they try to follow their dreams. This lack of support can leave them feeling isolated and alone, with no one to turn to for guidance or encouragement.

The loss of identity among Indian women is a major issue that needs to be addressed. It is not only detrimental to their mental health but also to their overall wellbeing. Women need to be allowed to explore their talents and interests and pursue their ambitions without fear of judgment or rejection. They need to be empowered to make choices that are in line with their values and aspirations.

Marriage is considered to be a significant milestone in every girl’s life. It is a union of two individuals who vow to spend the rest of their lives together, sharing all the joys and sorrows equally. While it is a blissful bond, it also demands some sacrifices from both partners.

Unfortunately, in many cultures, the sacrifice expected from a woman is her identity. After marriage, a girl's identity is limited to being a wife, a mother, a sister in law, or a daughter in law. This patriarchal mindset is prevalent in many parts of the world, where a woman is supposed to leave behind her name, her individuality, and her ambitions and dedicate herself entirely to her family.

The irony is that a married woman's identity becomes so closely associated with her relationship to others that people begin to refer to her by her husband’s name. It is common practice in many cultures to prefix a woman's name with her husband's surname. This reinforces the idea that a woman's worth is tied to her relationship with her partner and that her identity is lost after marriage.

One may argue that there is nothing wrong with adopting your partner's name after marriage, as it is a personal choice. However, the problem is much deeper than that. In many households, a woman is expected to follow certain roles and responsibilities and is judged based on how well she fulfills them. Her worth is measured by her ability to manage her household and cater to the needs of her husband and his family.

This mindset is not only regressive but also harmful to a woman's mental health. When a woman's identity is reduced to her role as a wife, her sense of self-worth takes a hit. She begins to feel undervalued and unimportant, leading to depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues.

Moreover, when society removes a woman's identity, it inadvertently strips her of her agency, making it difficult for her to stand up for herself and assert her rights. In many cases, women are pressurized into marriages without their consent, and once they are married, they are expected to conform to their husband’s wishes and desires. This can lead to abusive relationships, where women are unable to leave due to societal pressure or lack of support.

In today's world, where women have broken numerous barriers and have achieved success in various fields, it is disheartening to see that their worth is still tied to their marital status. Women should have the freedom to define themselves outside of their relationships and be valued for who they are as individuals.

The social construct of patriarchal societies often undervalues and undermines women's identities after marriage. Women's role in a family is highly praised and respected, but their individuality and potential often go unrecognized. This issue needs to be addressed and eliminated from society by acknowledging a woman's identity beyond her marital status and treating her with equal respect and opportunities.

There are several ways to address this issue. A change in the mindset of society towards women is must. Women should not be judged for wanting to pursue their dreams or break free from traditional roles. They should be encouraged and supported, both by their families and by society at large.

More support for women who want to pursue their ambitions is also needs to be encouraged. This can come in the form of mentorship, scholarships, and other forms of support. Women need to know that there are people out there who believe in them and are willing to help them achieve their goals.

There needs to be more emphasis on education and awareness about mental health issues. Women need to be educated about the signs and symptoms of mental health-related issues and how to seek help if they need it. There needs to be more resources available for women who are struggling with mental health-related issues, including counseling and therapy.

The loss of identity is a major reason for mental health-related issues among Indian women. This issue needs to be addressed through changes in societal attitudes, support for women who want to pursue their ambitions, and greater awareness about mental health issues. Women need to be empowered to make choices that are in line with their values and aspirations, and they need to know that there are people out there who believe in them and are willing to help them achieve their goals.

The Digi Begs

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The advent of internet has transformed people's lifestyles in many ways. Beggars are not the excetion either. New Age Beggars are updated enough to exploit the digital mod of payment by manipulating people's emotions. Here is a A humorous poem about online begging.

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The Digi Begs [Digital Beggars]

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While roaming in the market, 

I saw a beggar on the street,

Who was asking for a grant,

With smartphone at his feet, 

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His voice was croaky, 

His clothes were all torn,

Still didn't worry, had,

Paytm on his phone.

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He begged from anyone,

On street , he could find,

And offered his barcode,

With hope in his mind.

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He called up the kids,

Their moms dads and sis,

And pleaded them all, 

For a little of their bliss.

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Please Send me some,

grant he would implore,

I am Just a poor beggar,

With no bread in store.

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All laughed at him ,

That Digi beg though,

Still all have granted,

Him bliss of rainbow.

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And so on that beggar,

With phone at his feet,

Collected the grant and, 

Pleased with the treat.

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He thanked all kids,

Their moms dads too,

And then proceeded to, 

Beg some where new.

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And I was surprised, 

What a world of today,

Even Beggars updated, 

Have found new way,

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Their selfies are sad, 

With frowns so deep,

With ad-on to make them,

Look oh-so-sweet.

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Their Instagram posts,

Are a sight to see,

With sad filters and ,

Captions they plea.

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Please help me out, 

as I am in need,

And hope that you all, 

be kind, indeed.

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This online drama, 

It's ways so strange,

With norms all old,

Forever have changed.

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So next time if digi beg,

Says he is in need,

Be aware of him & you,

Need not to cede.

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Don't get fooled by his,

Digital such asks,

For beggars are beggars ,

Just pseudo are masque.

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Ajay Amitabh Suman

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A Donkey and A Lady

Once, was a donkey,

so silly so slow,

In wisdom of his,

He saw a wierd show.

In garden he noticed,

A lady tall, fair,

Her hair in braids ,

that woven with care.

And braid of lady long,

Hung from her head,

He thought was a tail, 

so he brayed and said.

O Lady why do you,

keep such a long tail?

Behind your head,

What a cocktail?

O lady, young lady, 

Your tail gone wrong,

Does not look simple,

Just sounds a gong.

Do you know value of,

tail , back of  waist,

Though looks so funny,

But Not thing to waste.

With tail on the back, 

one can swat a fly,

Can calm a kid with,

tail when he cry. 

Keep down ,in fear, 

in anger can smack, 

Can clean the garbage, 

with tail at the back.

Lady, O lady, please,

don't take offense,

Your tail, so funny, it, 

doesn't make sense. 

Hearing this, lady with, 

a roll of her eyes,

Replied "O Donkey, 

why do you surprise?

And then she laughed 

and shook her head,

This question so silly,

O Donkey, she said.

Imagine the walking,

with tail so long,

You  trip and stumble, 

all the day along.

And this is my braid,

The beauty encase.

Not tail that hangs , 

no honor no grace.

Dance of strands that,

sway with its move,

It's crown of glamour ,

that I proudly approve.

Braid can be sign of, 

Elegance  and art,

With different designs,

This set you apart.

Why do you match this, 

Braid with your tail?

It's just like relating,

a feather to a snail.

and then she laughed,

and shook her head,

Donkey observed her, 

and brayed with dread.

He thought for a while,

scratched his chin,

Perhaps you're right, 

And it would be sin.

My tail at the back,

So long and thick,

It might just make me,

look quite sick.

and he felt guilty for 

the way he behaved,

He walked up to lady 

said sorry and brayed.

And took life's lesson, 

he never forgot,

Not fair in judging, 

a book by its knot. 

Ajay Amitabh Suman

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Ready for the case

My Lord, I am ready 

for the case, my task, 

but unfit for the tough 

questions you ask.

A lawyer was standing

in a court one day, 

and ready for his brief 

his defense to play.

But when the Hon'ble

judge began to speak, 

The lawyer found himself

in problem so meek.

I am ready to argue , 

your honor, my lord, 

but often I find your 

quizzing like a sword.

When it comes to 

responding your doubt, 

Finding new case laws 

not easy , I shout. 

For they are like razors, 

so pointed , so strong, 

And I am not ready for 

the answers they long.

I prepare for the task 

to my knowledge, in hand, 

No interest in justice, 

client's profit beforehand.

But I am not up for it , 

may make mistake. 

May lose my client, 

I fear, for heaven's sake.

How can I avoid your 

quizzing, your way?

For facing your questions, 

my client does pay.

Hence, I am just here , 

and rising to the test. 

Shall be facing Lord's 

hammer, and do my best. 

Ajay Amitabh Suman

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Who is the Boss

Once husband & wife ,

decided to toss,

You are my boss or 

Am I your boss?

Husband was certain 

that he was, with a grin,

But little did he know, 

What was the spin?

Wife thought over and 

over for that fight,

Not getting solution 

She chose to strike.

What could be effect,

You can just guess,

That Wife relaxing and 

husband in a mess.

He tried to do laundry 

but burnt his T-Shirt,

The house looked clumsy 

scrambled one just.

Made an effort to clean 

But it all looks crude,

Attempted in kitchen too, 

but burn the food,

Begging or pleading in vain 

she wouldn't budge.

He noticed her value,  

not need to fudge.

With an empty stomach , 

in hunger at loss,

He came to conclusion ,

That She was the boss.

Ajay Amitabh Suman:

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2023

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As the new year 

approaches with glee,

We must remember 

one thing, you see.

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Let's ring in the year 

ahead with cheer,

But not to forget the 

threat that's here.

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The COVID not gone, 

still here to stay,

We have to take 

precaution every day.

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Washing one's hands 

wearing the mask,

Social distancing 

should be one's task.

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Avoiding the crowds 

staying at home,

This is only way left 

not to be alone.

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The vaccine of COVID 

brings hope to heart,

But everyone has to 

take vaccine take part.

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By following instructions, 

all duty assigned,

We can help each other 

and ease our mind.

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I wish you all happy 

and healthy new year,

May it  bring you bliss 

and joy minus  fear.

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Ajay Amitabh Suman: 

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The Nation's Celebration

In our office, there was an occasion for a Dhanteras celebration. The majority of our office personnel were dressed in ethnic attire. As lawyers, we do not have that kind of freedom. Our black and white dresses were on, as were the District Courts.

After attending court matters, most  of our colleagues returned to the office. The Dhanteras celebration was planned for the office during the launch hours.

Most of the office staff, including court assistants, office assistants, and colleague advocates came to the office by that time. As is customary in our office, it was time for our Sir to distribute gifts to all of the staff.

The office environment became more pleasant when a few of the staff started cracking jokes on others. All of us enjoyed this. The Dipawali Festival is to be celebrated across the country on coming Monday. So all of us were enthusiastic. 

During that office ceremony, I was unexpectedly called to say a few words. As the invitation was extempore, so was my reply. I simply reiterated the words of wisdom poured upon me, by Sir, a few hours ago.

Just a few hours ago, I happened to have a conversation with my Sir. As with his usual smiling face and witty style, he asked me as to what was so special about Dipawali Festival.

I answered in the same way any other could have said regarding this festival. As for example , this festival brings happiness in one's life etc. Sharing of gifts betters the relationship. 

He was having his own vision about this festival. Cetainly it was not the vision, which I could have envisaged. Such perception often comes when a fact is perceived from a different label.

He began with carving out distinction of Dioawali with other festivals. Dipawali is one of the festivals which is celebrated across the country. But there are many other such festivals, like Holi, Durga Puja, Muharram, X-mas celebrations etc. 

Naturally, all of the festivals bring festivals into people's lives. But there is something unique about this festival. It not only brings happiness to the family of the country, but the nation as a whole.

This festival is unique in the sense that it provides a great boost to the country's economy. I kept on repeating the words of wisdom , Sir, shared with me.

The potters who make earthen lamps, sweet sellers , toy makers, incense, incense stick makers, fruit sellers, home decorators, jewellers, utensils makers and sellers, who are the people for whom this festival does not provide work.

During this festival season, a great boom in the shops of the digital markets is seen.  Where ever one may go, be it mobile shops, television, computer etc., long lines of consumers are seen.

Almost a month ago, the entire market was decorated with gift shops. This festival makes everyone prosperous in this country. From the poorest of the poor to the biggest traders, every one benefitted.

The time of Diwali is considered to be very auspicious. That's why countless people like to buy and sell flats at this time. The real estate market often witnessed a boom during this season.This is the only festival where gifts are exchanged on such a large scale.

There is no such business in this country which this festival does not affect in a positive way. From the smallest business to the biggest profession, this festival benefits the people.

This is the only festival that boosts the economy of this country. It would not be unreasonable to say that the festival of Deepawali is very important, not only for the common man but also for the progress of this country.

And finally, I end my words with the wish that may this festival bring prosperity and wealth in everyone's life. In this way, the celebration of Dhanteras in our office ended.

His words are still echoing in my mind as he said that Dipawali brings economic prosperity not only to the  family of a common man  but the nation as a whole. It boosts economy of nation.

This vision of Sir towards the festival of Diwali also made me think how different the approach of one person towards any events makes that person different from others. 

He rightly observed that perhaps it is the result of celebrating festivals like Diwali in this country that, where the economy of the whole world collapsed during the Corona time, the Indian economy was not that much adversely affected.

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The Arrow of Curiosity

A boy and his father were once in a village, walking the footpath in the early hours of the day. The kid watched in awe as the Red Sun gradually rose above the eastern horizon. The sound of birds chirping improved appearance of the weather. 

Children are a constant source of curiosity. He wasn't an exception either. He questioned his father as to why the sun rises every morning? His father explained that the sun rises each morning as a result of the Earth's rotation on her axis. 

Son's another question was , why the Earth rotates on her axis? According to the father, it was caused by the magnetic field of Earth. The Kid asked further: what would happen if the Earth's movement came to a halt?

The father sensed the child's apprehension and responded, "This cannot happen because this movement keeps the Earth and the Sun attached to each other." It is a remote possibility that Earth and Sun will be separated and fall apart in this universe. 

The child inquired, "Where will this Earth fall in the universe, and where will it go in case they fall apart from each other?" The Father sidestepped the question by asking the Son, "Do you hear the birds chirping?" Isn't it relaxing? 

The child's attention was diverted from the Earth, Sun, and Universe to the birds. Father clevery rerouted the direction of Kid's questions and in this way the focuss of Son's curiosity was shifted as well. Now father was relaxed in sensing the relvance of questions, which were now coming from his son. 

Curiosity can be beneficial when focused in the right direction. It will get you nowhere if it is directed at those facts which cannot be answered. It will only confuse a person who develops the habit of asking and asking questions on minor issues. 

As we've seen, the father realized that his son was asking a question that couldn't be answered, so he shifted his curiosity. He did so correctly, knowing the limitations of the answers that can be given to such questions. 

It is impossible to explain where the Earth will go if it falls in the universe. As a result, the father shifted the son's curiosity to birds, to which the son could relate. There are numerous facts and questions in life that are similar to this. 

Curiosity is admirable, but the more one delves into things out of inquisitiveness, the more complicated they become. It is only an overly curious attitude that causes things to appear both complicated and complex. 

There is a weekly day system. Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday are the 7 days which comes in a day. What could be the answer if someone were to ask why Sunday comes before Monday? It all depends on how some people perceive it. 

There is another way to look at this fact. If observed differently, these seven days of the week can easily be understood to rotate in a circle. It's just how men see things these days. Any day can be used as a starting point. 

For seconds per hour, hours per day, days per week, weeks per month, and months per year, the same holds true. These divisions were created for human convenience. By focusing on the why, how, and when of these facts, it is impossible to comprehend them. These are factual assertions. 

Only those questions that could be beneficial to man, which help in solving life's problems. When some body is suffering from fever, it is useless to question as to why God created viruses. Instead, one should concentrate on developing medications that can treat the illness. 

After all God has not only created the viruses, but also gave man the intelligence to find the cure. Why should we route our attention on the problem? Simply shifting the focus from problems to solutions is all what is required. One gets what he wants in this life. 

Only that inquisitiveness might be useful which helps in solving man's problem. Only those questions , which in some way make a man's life simpler, should be asked, should be enquired. When you are already thirsty, it would be foolish to inquire as to why this water was produced or that what is composition of water? It is better to consume it to quench your thirst. 

A condition of confusion might emerge from asking too many questions. However, if you accept things as they are, you can very easily base your views and ideals on that foundation, which may give you a very comfortable existence. What matters is how you use your curiosity , whether in solving or exacerbating your difficulties in daily life.

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When in Pain, How to take God's Name?

This absolute essence is the cause of this existence, and it is only through it that supreme happiness may be realised. But what matters is how a man spends his life. 

Being part of this temporary existence, a man continues to plunge into the ocean of misery, yearning for pleasure from fleeting earthly goods. How can a person be aware of his true consciousness while living a blissless life, overcome by unmet desires?

The non-dualism-based Vedanta philosophy propagates the idea that this world is God's dream. According to Vedanta, the entire universe is nothing more than a manifestation in God's thought. This planet does not exist in the reality but it does appear in the tainted perception of human senses.

This has been described by using the example of a man who mistook a rope for a snake in the middle of the night. This universe does not exist, yet it appears to exist. This unreal has neither a beginning nor an end. It appears as a result of a man's corrupted perspective.

It does appear to exist because of ignorance. Hence no need to get panicked over the worldly problems. As the word is non existent, so as the problems appearing in this world. 

Why to bother about the cause and cure of the obstacles which appears to perturb the mind of a worldly man. It is better to ignore this world and rather focus on the unchanging and everlasting the truth. But Buddhist way of interpreting the worldly problem is different. 

The Buddha stated that asking the inquiry, "What is the explanation for this?" would be futile. No purpose is going to be served by pondering over as to Why , how and when did this suffering begin? 

When an arrow is struck at a man, no purpose is going to be served by asking the question as to what the reasons behind this are, what was the composition of this arrow. Rather, it is better to focus on how a man can be relieved of the problem.

On the other side, Vedanta explains that if there is no suffering, what can be done to alleviate it? Is it possible to treat someone in a dream? Nobody is dead, and no one is born again. Whatever is constantly changing cannot be called genuine.

The truth is always unaffected and pure. The fundamental power behind every variable, constant, transitory, undetectable, animal, bird, tree, plant, river, mountain, person, woman, and so on is the ultimate element's omnipresence.

A man's desire exists solely because of his ignorance. A man is in pain. A man experiences pain. A yogi of the highest understanding claims that the world, desire, and suffering do not exist. After all, what could the meaning of pain or gain be in a dream?

Only God is the ultimate truth that prevails over all, and this truth can be realized only if worldly people's attention is diverted from this dream-like world to the real truth, i.e., God.

However, when a man is involved in this worldly affair, tests of this way of knowing properly end in failures. A student getting ready for a competitive exam does not like to continue in this state of wisdom because it could lead to them failing the exam.

Why put forth the effort if this world is only a dream? Because he must contend with new competition every day, a businessman may find this wisdom to be a significant obstacle to realizing his success over his rivals.

If he remains in this state of a dreamlike world, his effort will also be dreamlike. Is it possible to see the ultimate unchanging God in someone who is chased and injured by a carnivorous animal?

To satisfy his appetite, a man must feed his body. When faced with real world challenges such as pain, hunger, thirst, and cutthroat competition, it would be extremely difficult to focus on God.

The thing is, when the challenges posed by this so-called dream-like world appear to be real, how do we develop the wisdom that this world is not real and the so-called everlasting consciousness or God is real? 

This is one of the fundamental challenges that a seeker of truth must overcome before he or she can dream of breaking free from a dream-like world. This may be one of the most difficult tasks for a truth seeker, but the task he has set himself is not easy either.

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A Desire for others to Desire the way you Desire

It is believed that God's yearning to understand himself is what caused this existence to come into being.

Its actual essence is eternal, never altering the ultimate bliss, regardless of the term you use to address it, whether by the name of God, truth, or ultimate super consciousness.

The ultimate super consciousness awareness is also referred to as "Satchittanand" for this reason. 

The three words that make up this term are SAT, CHITT, and ANAND. It implies that the only reality is pure consciousness, which is unchanging and unending happiness.

 

Since it has already been made clear that the super consciousness's ultimate purpose is to understand itself, it makes sense that everyone who is a part of this existence would be led by that desire.

A man can't escape his desires. As long as a person is in this world, they will think and desire things. The fact that man wants to manipulate and control this environment to suit his ideas and wishes, however, is the real issue.

Every person's deepest wish is to have others share his or her desires in the same way that they do.

One aspires to control the behaviour of others they are connected to.

 

All of the suffering that occurs in this world is caused by this one off reason. Everyone has the wish that the person they engage with must carry out their desired task.

The issue is that everyone has a different way of thinking, proposing to act, and acting. How is coherence possible in this world? How can a man escape this vicious cycle? Is there a chance or a way to obtain the perfect solution?

The answer is actually extremely straightforward and easy. One will be liberated from all of life's woes if they begin to look at their own nature.

Pure consciousness, the driving force behind everyone's existence, has no inclination to dictate to others what they should want. 

This planet exists as a result of super consciousness's deepest yearning. However, everyone has the freedom to think and behave in accordance with their own nature.

All problems would be solved once a man understood that each and every person in this world has their own free will, which can only be led. One should learn to influence rather than manage and control other people's desires.

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Just See, whether it set you free or not?

There is very subtle but huge difference between love and lust. Often feeling of strong physical attraction has been misconstrued as love since centuries.

The whole litereture has been repleted with such poems where a poet has expressed his emotion by gloryfying the physical beauty of his lady love.

Often the poet kept on making comparison of his woman's eye with stars, hairs with moving snake, lips with apple etc.

But what kind of  idea is flowing behind such poetic expression? The emotion which is responsible behind such expression , what is this all about? 

Normally it is understood as love. The woman also accept such kind of physical glorification of her body  as a symbol of love. 

But the strong force underlying is actually physicall attraction towards the opposite sex and this is actually lust.

Difference in love and lust is very fine and very huge. Once some body is in the trap of lust, he is going to be addicted.

Lust is a process of self hyptonyzation. The natural consequence would be jealousy, frustrated, fear, suspicion etc.

But love is rather greater possibility. Lust enslave you but love sets you free. Just see the relationship of mother and son. Love of mother does  always has soothing effect.

Love is always protective. The emotion of a brother towards his sister, relation ship of a friend is all about love. They love them so they are always willing to protect.

Teacher always have desire to see his student grow both in wisdom and in wealth. You will never find a teacher who gets envious of his students growth. These are few of examples of human to human relation. There may me possibility of another form of true love.

Just observe , when a rainbow appears in sky , how a child feels? When birds fly in the sky freely ,just observe beauty of this. When frogs sings in rainy seasons, what happens?

In rainy seasons when the whole earth is covered greenly plants , how does one feel? Of course these emotions expands your heart. It is love for nature. There can not be any possibility of lust here.

Even with your pet animals, the kind of emotion some one enjoys , is purely based on love. This frees the heart of both the recipient and the giver both 

Like wise it is very important for some one to be aware of this fact, whether he is falling in love or getting entrapped in the viscious circle of lust.

One you are clear about your emotion, you can be ready to face challenges to be posed by the relationship. It is also important as it also gives you an option to choose the relation.

One must understand that in love , the heart  of a man blossoms, but in lust the soul of a man gets entrapped. Love equip a man to give and give while lust always forces a man to take and take. Love sets the heart of a man free, while lust enslaves the soul. Choice is yours what you choose, lust or love?

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Fear From Freedom

A peacock and a Bird Mynah  lived in a garden. The two had a very close friendship. Be it day or night, work or rest, both used to take time out to meet.

Their friendship used to add more color during the rainy season. When the peacock started dancing by spreading its colorful feathers in cloudy weather, Bird Mynah would start singing. In the season, the joy would spread all around.

In those days the son of  that garden’s owner had come to visit. Seeing the captive mingling of peacock and the Bird Mynah, he was stunned. Now that child would sometimes come to the garden to see both of them.

Here the peacock was the lover of weather, the lover of cloud. He danced only when the cloud covered the sky. Because of this, the child had to wait a long time. But to please the child, Bird Mynah  used to imitate his voice exactly.

The child was happy to see the Bird Mynah  imitating his voice like this. He would repeatedly speak to the Bird Mynah  and Mynah would imitate him. In this way Mynah got closer to the child and his distance from the peacock kept increasing.

Peacock repeatedly tried to convince  Mynah to stop copying others' voices, but Bird Mynah  turned a deaf ear to the advise of his friend. The peacock continued on its nature of loving the weather, loving the cloud and Bird Mynah kept trying to please that child by imitating his voice.

With the passage of time the child grew up. He had to go away from the village to a big town  to further  study. But he was fond of Bird Mynah  so much that he could not imagine living alone without him.

The boy started insisting on his father to take that Bird Mynah also with him. After all, how many times could the father refuse. So his father made allowed his son to carry the Bird Mynah with him  , but for the safety of Bird Mynah, he kept him in a cage. No one could harm Myna in the cage. Bird Mynah’s  safety was also to be taken care of.

Bird Mynah  had to pay the price for copying another. By the time Bird Mynah  realized his mistake, it was too late. Feeling sad, Bird Mynah had to stay in the cage.

It is said that time heals every wound. When Bird Mynah  left, the peacock kept on shedding tears for some time. But for how many days? Life does not go on by shedding tears.

It was necessary to work hard to eat food. The peacock had to come out to live. The hunger of a sinful stomach makes everything forget. Peacock got busy with his life. Slowly everything became normal.

Here Bird Mynah  also kept on adapting himself  with the changing times. Initially, Bird Mynah  also felt bad to be tied in a cage. He used to remember the day of independence. Remembering the days spent with the peacock.

When the clouds covered the sky, the peacock used to dance like his own feather and sing, wow what a moment. When the whole sky used to be the home of both of them. No one was there to stop them.

Now his whole world was confined within the wall of the cage. Bird Mynah  had realized that the old days are not going to come back. So why not adopt the life of a cage.

So forgetting the old days, now he started focusing on the good things of the new life. Now without any hard work, Bird Mynah  would get food on time. Now he could not be killed by any carnivorous animal. With the passage of time, Bird Mynah  now felt quite secure inside the cage.

And what he was supposed to do for this, just wag his tail at the behest of his master and imitate his voice in front of his friends. And in return he got the love and admiration of his master. After all, what else did he need?

Time was flying with wings. Soon the education of that child was completed. After completing his degree, he had to return home. When he returned to his home, he also brought that Bird Mynah  with him.

After a long time, when the peacock heard the voice of his friend, his happiness knew no bounds. When he immediately reached his master's house, he saw that Bird Mynah  was making them laugh by imitating the voice of that child.

The peacock hid and waited for the night so that he could meet  Mynah alone. At night, when the owner's child went to sleep, the peacock approached  Mynah after getting an opportunity to inquire.

When  Mynah met his friend after so many days, both of them had tears in their eyes. After taking care of each other,  Mynah asked the peacock that why the owner's child has kept him in this cage, why not the peacock?

Peacock replied, Man likes the slavery of society, country, religion, caste, history, family and does not know whose slave and compels others to live in the same way. Whoever a man likes, he gets to control it.

Only for the sake of name, a man fights for freedom, but the real fight is not for freedom, in fact man's fight is to enslave and get slaved in his own way.

Look, my brother, the peacock further said, man does not want to live in freedom but in a chain made by himself. You imitated man, man drew a cage line for you too.

Well leave all these things too. The peacock further excitedly said to Mynah, now the time has come to break down the line drawn by the man. Come on friend, the whole sky is waiting for you again. Let’s come out of the cage.

Saying this the peacock opened the cage door and asked  Mynah to accompany him. Peacock thought Mynah  would not let this golden opportunity pass by. He thought that both would be able to sing and dance together in the open sky.

But alas, contrary to the peacock's expectation,  Mynah closed the cage door hesitatingly. In a single day, the peacock felt both immense joy and immense despair. Bird Mynah, with folded hands  requested  the peacock to return.

Bird Mynah said, Brother, because of being in the cage for so long, the habit of flying has gone. The second thing is that even drinking food in the cage is easily available. I am happy here brother. You go back to the garden. And yes sometimes keep coming to meet me.

The peacock returned to the garden with a smile. The peacock was laughing. It was clearly visible to him that due to living with man for so long time, maybe even my friend Mynah has also developed affinity for slavery.

Man can neither live alone nor allows others to be alone. Like a man, his friend Bird Mynah was also afraid of freedom. To fly in the open sky, after all, one has to bear the dangers of the sky too.

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Judiciary as a tool for injustice

First, let us clarify what Passover and adjournment are all about. In reality, when an advocate has numerous cases in one day, he cannot attend to all of them at the same time. Naturally, in the case where he is appearing in one case, in the other matter he has to ask for an adjournment.

And pass over is also a similar kind of concept. The Hon'ble Judges take up their cases in series. If an advocate is appearing in another court on another matter, he may ask for a pass over. In that situation, after finishing the complete list of cases, the Hon'ble Judges take up the pass over matter.

Both these concepts have been incorporated into the Judiciary in order to ease the justice delivery mechanism. But actually, what is happening today can be understood from the facts narrated here below.

One day, I was waiting for my case to come. My matter was down the list , so I had no other option but to wait for my turn. I was observing the other court case.

I witnessed one child custody case. The advocate from the wife's side was asking for a pass over. This request was vehemently opposed by the husband's side. When I paid attention to the contention of the husband's advocate, the true picture that emerged was that the matter was listed for argument on the issue of custody of their son.

My husband was residing in London. He was a British citizen. His visa was going to expire in 4 days. So he had to return to London to resume his job. Many matters were listed before the Court on that day. Following the launch, the Court was divided into two parts to hear cases. As a result, once the pass was granted, there was every chance that the matter would not reach. After that, there was a one-week holiday.

The consequence of Passover was that , once Passover was granted, the issue of child custody could not have been decided. This was the reason the advocate from the husband's side was opposing that Passover vehemently. In spite of vehement opposition by the lawyer from the husband's side, the Court had no option but to grant the pass over.

And as expected, the matter could not be reached after launch. The lawyer from the wife's side was able to secure the relief for his client as the child was living with the wife and the issue of child custody remained undecided. The husband had to go back to London empty-handed.

The problem with Passover and adjournment is that there has not been any law or regulation to control this tendency of Passover and adjournment. This is why advocates use this instrumentality of pass and adjournment as a tool to secure interest in favor of their respective clients.

Although requesting a pass over and adjournment is not illegal. This concept has been part and parcel of the judiciary across the world. But there has to be some curb on it. This should not be abused by advocates in order to protect their client's interests.

A few of the legal practices that have been used to cause injustice are pass over and adjournment. There has to be some mechanism so that proper utilization of pass and adjournment can be ensured.

No one can disturb you

One office assistant was busy carrying his file and putting it in the right place. He was trying to accomplish his task as soon as possible.

 

He was very enthusiastic and always propmpt in discharching his task. But there is thin but a very huge difference in discharging one's task promptly and finishing the task perfectly.

 

It has always been seen that the one, who prefers to accomplish his job quickly, always commits few mistakes. In order to finish the job quickly , it is highly probable that few mistakes may crop in.

 

It has rarely been seen that a work done in a hasty manner, comes out flawless. It is very rare combination that one who does his work hastily, is not prone to mistakes.

 

That office assistant was also not exception to this. His nature of performing his taks quickly aften results in silly mistakes.

 

This was but natural that his colleagues would envy with him. It happened many times that he used to finish the tasks, which normally require two office assistants to finish the job.

 

And what could be natural result of this. Off course jealously and inferiority complex amongst his colleagues.

 

His colleagues often used to taunt him and he often used to retaliate. His colleagues were busy in pointing out his silly mistakes and in the reply, he used to laugh at them at their slow pace of discharching their job.

 

But thing is that one strong man can not fight together with many weak persons. One man can not prevail upon others person if they come together.

 

In this office game of criticism and counter criticism, that office assistant alwyas found himself to be lone ranger. No one used to support him.

 

One day he was sitting in depressed mood. As usual ,his colleagues have left his calm unsettled by hurling at him lots of taunt and naughty remarks.

 

The Senior officer was observing him from distance. He tried to console him. That office assistant asked as to why no body likes him? He never thought any thing ill against any body. Still most of colleagues are busy laughing at him. What could be remedy of that?

 

The office answered: look , you give them an opportunity to others for this. All of your colleagues are not as efficient as you are, so this is but natural that they do not like you.

 

They are suffering from inferiority complex. This is but natural that they will taunt you. Important thing is this that how you are handling this situation.

 

You are disturbed not because of them, but because you have given them an opportunity to disturb you.

 

And remedy is simple, very simple. Stop reacting to their comment. Just be indifferent towards their taunt. Do not react.

 

If you stop reacting to their comment,for 

how long they can continue with their misbehaviour? 

 

After all there is limit of every thing. Why you are making your self slaves to their comments. Instead of utilizing you energy on reacting to their taunt, it would be better if you focuss on correcting your mistakes.

 

He patted on the shoulder of that office assistant and left the office. The office assistant was watching him leaving the office, with thankful eyes. After all the lesson of life he had learnt.

We can not change the time but our self we can

 

Once, conflict was going on between the husband and his wife. When his mother visited them, the husband complained that his wife did not treat her well.

While his wife brought up a similar concern. The wife was upset because her husband had not treated her with respect in past. According to her, she simply reciprocated.

Both of them have since become adamant in their positions. The relationship suffered as a result.

One day, one of the wife's elderly relatives paid them a visit.

Despite their best efforts to maintain their relationship as natural as possible, her uncle was able to see through their attempts at camouflage.

The uncle attempted to comprehend the issue while they had breakfast. Soon, the husband and wife began accusing one another of the wrongdoings they had previously committed against one another.

Her uncle recognized the issue. He started saying that stressing that there was nothing we could do about what had already transpired. Time has just one direction.

Time always goes in one direction, from the past to the present and from the present to the future.

The passage of time cannot ever be turned around. No matter how hard one tries, one thing is certain, one cannot travel back in time.

We have control over the present time only. God has not provided us with the ability to travel back in time. We can not correct the errors that we have made in the past.

We can only memorize our past, which is the only choice we have. Either we can forgive the I'll deeds and there by can improve our relationship, or we can spoil our relation ship by memorizing the I'll deeds done in past. Why not to use the better option!

The issue has been fixed. Young couple have realized that remembering past ill actions won't get them anywhere. Correcting them is better. The uncle was smiling, as were the husband and wife.

They now know that it is pointless to continually bring up wrongdoings from the past. The key to their relationship improving was greater memory.

It is better to use the present to improve one's own future rather than memorizing the negative past.

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